The below message was posted in a yahoo group & got a bit of discussion..
I recently saw a flyer for an event, a fundraiser & was curious about
it. Based on the flyer, I was not certain who is or is not welcome.
Which got me to thinking further on this issue, as it pertains to me
(and people like me). You see, I am Intersexed. Approximately 1% of
the population is intersexed (source: ISNA website). So we are in
fact out there in far more numbers than many folks realise.
I know that the society I live in is a Gendered society. I had to
select a gender to have a Yahoo email address. But they only offered
male or female. I am neither.
I am not a man, I am not a woman, I am not Trans. I am Intersexed.
I am genetically intersexed. Furthermore, I as identify as an
intersexed person. I see my orientation as Queer. Indeed, I don't
actually see it as possible for me to be homosexual, hetrosexual or
bisexual.
There are Men's Events. Women's events. Trans events. I am none of
these things. I don't want to be a man. I don't want to be a woman.
I don't want to Transition. I am happy as I am. Both male and female.
I respect that different spaces & different parties have different
rules. And I do not want to make anyone else uncomfortable.
So.. where do I fit? Where do I belong. Where would I be imposing?
I thank you all in advance for your thoughts or input.
Max
I recently saw a flyer for an event, a fundraiser & was curious about
it. Based on the flyer, I was not certain who is or is not welcome.
Which got me to thinking further on this issue, as it pertains to me
(and people like me). You see, I am Intersexed. Approximately 1% of
the population is intersexed (source: ISNA website). So we are in
fact out there in far more numbers than many folks realise.
I know that the society I live in is a Gendered society. I had to
select a gender to have a Yahoo email address. But they only offered
male or female. I am neither.
I am not a man, I am not a woman, I am not Trans. I am Intersexed.
I am genetically intersexed. Furthermore, I as identify as an
intersexed person. I see my orientation as Queer. Indeed, I don't
actually see it as possible for me to be homosexual, hetrosexual or
bisexual.
There are Men's Events. Women's events. Trans events. I am none of
these things. I don't want to be a man. I don't want to be a woman.
I don't want to Transition. I am happy as I am. Both male and female.
I respect that different spaces & different parties have different
rules. And I do not want to make anyone else uncomfortable.
So.. where do I fit? Where do I belong. Where would I be imposing?
I thank you all in advance for your thoughts or input.
Max
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Re: Queer & Intersexed - Where are they welcome? Where should they be welcome?
Sat, February 17, 2007 - 6:54 PMI'm pleased to report..
Last night I went to an Exiles (in San Francisco) program. Everyone I interacted with was very nice & welcoming. There were a few curious looks. And a couple of folks touched base with me, to get a better understanding. But I had a nice time. and I'm glad I went.
So I would encourage any folks out there, who are intsexed & not sure where they might fit it.. if you have an interest in Kink, check out The Exiles (in San Francisco).
Max
